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Releasing Fear and Choosing Love
Releasing fear can be a very difficult challenge. However, choosing love can be just as difficult. For one thing, not all of us have deeply experienced love, whereas, everyone has felt fear. The higher expression of love is unconditional love, which is love with no conditions, no rules, no requirements. It is extremely rare for humans to love unconditionally. Hence, most of us have not experienced unconditional love—unless we have found a connection with the higher dimensions. The love that comes from Angels, Ascended Masters and our true, Multidimensional SELF is always unconditional. If it is not unconditional, it is not from Spirit. The unconditional love we can experience through communication with higher Beings can teach us that love is available without the hidden element of fear.
Most human love has the hidden element of fear that comes from conditional love: “If I am not good enough, will they stop loving me?” One of our primary challenges with love is that we have had so many experiences of conditional love that we cannot trust unconditional love enough to accept it when we do feel it. This is why we seek inside for the element of life that is missing on the outside—free love, love that we always deserve because we are alive. Wonderfully enough, this free love does exist, deep inside our self, right where we’ve been looking.
Once we can go inside to find this unconditional love, we can begin to recognize it all around us in nature, in our pets, in a sunrise and even in other humans. The challenge is that, until we can feel the unconditional love that is infinitely flowing from the higher dimensions, we cannot recognize that is resonating throughout our entire physical world. How do we find that inner, unconditional love? We find it by finding and communing with our own Multidimensional SELF—the expression of us that exists beyond the illusions of separation and limitations in our third dimensional reality.
The fact is that unconditional love is much more than an emotion; it is an energy field of light. This energy field of unconditional love is the creative power of the universe, the breath of God and the cohesive power that holds all life in form. We can begin to feel this unconditional love by loving ourselves—unconditionally. This unconditional love of our self will magnetize our Multidimensional SELF into our awareness and remind us to love our life.
Fear, on the other hand, is a constrictive energy field. When we feel it in our body, we have an urge to curl up in order to protect ourselves. Fear is initially felt in our bodies, and we have many sayings to attest to this, such as, “I was so frightened my knees shook,” or “that scared the ___ out of me.” Fear is a very visceral emotion and often makes us feel we that can’t stand on our own or we want to move our bowels. The problem is that fear feeds itself. Once we feel fear in our bodies, it frightens us, and then we feel more fear. Unfortunately, we have developed behaviors that actually exacerbate our fear, when what we want to do is release it.
One of these behaviors is to try to hide from fear by receding further and further into whatever appears to offer us safety. This could be staying home, isolating ourselves, eating too much, or taking drugs. On the other hand, some of us try to attack fear by lashing out at it with anger. However, fear is only an emotion, and fighting it merely combines it with anger making the fear especially toxic. Also, once the anger dissipates, the fear is still there because we have not directly confronted it or released it.
Remember, fear in and of itself is neither good nor bad. Fear is the waste material of the third dimension. Fear simply is, like garbage is. It is what is left over once the constant rush of adrenaline from the battles of life is depleted, and our body is trying to clear itself.
Direct confrontation of our fear is possible when we have our SELF at our back, and this confrontation is best begun inside of our mind. The way that we confront fear is that we choose love. For example, when we feel fear, we can take a moment to remember a person, place, creature or even a thing that we love. Then choose to focus our attention only on that love. We can inhale the feeling of love, and as we exhale, visualize the love moving throughout our entire body. Once our consciousness is filled with that love, we can focus our intention on how grateful we are to have this love in our life. The gratitude will serve to bond our consciousness to the love and repel the old fears.
If fear threatens to return, we can say: “Thanksgiving for the substance at hand will duplicate the substance indefinitely” until all far is released.
There are, of course, situations where we are in danger. In these cases, our fear is a valuable warning, and we don’t want to release it until the danger is over. After all, if we had no fear, we would have no warning. However, there is also the danger of the “enemy within.” This enemy stops us on our path of self-awareness, but fighting with our self will only dissipate our energy and distract us from what we are trying to accomplish. This is the time when we need to feel the fear and do it anyway. But how do we do this once we have allowed the fear into our conscious mind?
Try observing fear in this manner: Take a long, slow, deep breath and feel the feeling of fear. Then, without comment or discussion, take another long, slow, deep breath and release the fear with a long exhale. In this calm state, we can determine the source of the fear—whether it is a warning or merely more anxiety coming from our unconscious or from others. If it is a warning, we can take the warning and proceed with caution.
On the other hand, the fear might well be coming from a repressed memory that has not been cleared from our unconscious minds, and we are projecting it onto the present. As we focus on our Multidimensional SELF, we often feel strong enough to remember fear that has long been hiding in our unconscious mind. Because of the support and unconditional love we feel from our SELF, we are strong enough to confront this inner saboteur—the forgotten, wounded part of our self that will not allow us to move forward. If we can be conscious of our inner saboteur, we can calmly confront it and give this wounded part of our self the recognition and love that it needs.
Still other times, the fear we feel is not even ours. We live in very challenging times, and many of the people around us, as well as the collective consciousness of our planet, are afraid. Remember, whether we are aware of it or not, we do have telepathy and empathy. Therefore, we can feel fear that is not our own.
Once we have accepted the warning, identified that the fear is not our own, and/or recognized and loved our wounded self, we are ready to release the fear. First we can take a moment to remember that fear is merely what is left over from our many experiences of life. We have done whatever we felt was necessary at the time, so it is time to thank fear for its message and release it. Then we can take a long breath and clear it from our Physical Body, excuse it from our Emotional Body, and push it through our Mental Body—before we have a chance to think about it. We can then allow our Causal Body to see the cause and effect of the fear and ask our Spiritual Body to dissolve it with love.
Eventually, we will learn to identify fear simply by its feel and not attach it to anything external or internal. In this manner, we can learn to allow fear to just be, like a flea, a snake, or a sunset. Fear just is! If we don’t get attached to it, it will merely flow around us. When fear merely is, and we do not attend to it, the energy field of fear begins to dissipate. This method of dealing with fear is like swimming with sharks. If we find a shark next to us in the water, and we become hysterical and desperately try to swim away from it, we will look like prey and attract the shark’s attention. On the other hand, we don’t want to be so unconscious that we bump right into it. Our best plan would be to stay calm and slowly allow the shark (our fear) to pass us by.
Fear usually arises from the third dimension and cannot rise into the higher frequencies of the fifth dimension and beyond. Therefore, fear can only raise into the Lower Astral Plane of the fourth dimension where it connects with other fear, waiting for a chance to be swept back into the third dimension. If we feed fear with our conscious attention, or even our unconscious attention, it would be like feeding the shark. The best way to stay out of attachment is to remember that fear is a constrictive force, whereas love is an expansive force. If we can think of and feel love for something or someone, even our SELF, we can expand our consciousness and allow the fear to flow through us.
onto Choosing Love
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Multidimensional Counseling
